Feeling Paralyzed? Find a New “P” and Change Your Reality with Kelly Exeter – SASM 099

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It's easy to get overwhelmed with work, family, commitments … life.

But it's much harder to navigate through your feelings of overwhelming paralysis (not to mention get someone to throw you a life line).

My guest for this episode has had multiple death-defying moments and she doesn't want you to need her perspective to get better. Kelly Exeter is the author of two books, Practical Perfection and Your Best Year Ever, an Editor of Flying Solo (Australia's largest online community of micro-businesses), the owner of Swish Design and co-host of two podcasts: Let it Be and Straight and Curly.

She's also a mother, wife, friend, runner, blogger at A Life Less Frantic and someone with a lot more “and”s. You'll discover that we dive deep, tread water, and take turns rescuing each other from the depths of self-destruction.

“We don't want to say no to anything when we're overwhelmed. Because that new thing might be the answer – the ticket out of this place that we've created for ourselves.” – Kelly Exeter

Kelly's big into the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and we also discuss where we overlap and differ in personality. It turns out one fundamental difference isn't enough to overpower so many traits we have in common (abstainers vs. moderators, anyone?).

There's a lot to love in this one, and you might find more love for yourself after you click play and enjoy.

You're about to Learn ...

  • What triggered Kelly's total breakdown and how it led to a less frantic life.
  • A gift that every parent can (should?) give their kids.
  • Why more “doing” is not the solution to feeling overwhelmed.
  • Kelly's double brush with death – and what's changed since it happened.
  • Why we need to become the kind of person we want to surround ourselves with.
  • How scary it can be to feel your feelings.
  • Why publicly workshoping your insecurities is actually a good thing.
  • Why some people simultaneously hate and love perspective.
  • A definition and practice of self-compassion that anyone can love.
  • Three key components of an excellent life … and how to practically perfect them.

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Timestamps and Topics

  • [05:07] Kelly's seeds of awesomeness
  • [09:30] A gift that every parent can (should?) give their kids
  • [13:59] Kelly's total breakdown that lead to A Life Less Frantic
  • [18:18] Fundamental changes since Kelly's breakdown
  • [28:20] How Kelly has started to feel her feelings
  • [36:57] Kelly's brush with death and needing perspective to feel better
  • [44:18] Tips for self-compassion, self-love, and being gentle
  • [50:02] How to make time to meander

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